Tyranny of the SHOULD — a must read!
This post title comes from a chapter title by the same name in Karen Horney’s 1950 classic work, Neurosis and Human Growth: The Struggle Toward Self-Realization. Karen Horney, MD, was one of the most...
View ArticleKick Your Comfort Junkie!
Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) enjoys personifying clusters of self-defeating thoughts, like our “discomfort dodger” and “comfort junkie,” in order to quickly remind ourselves that our...
View ArticleDriving Without Anger on the Road of Life
Do you suffer from road rage? How about life rage? Well, this post will apply REBT to managing both. Even though “rage” may not be the level of upset you experience, these tools work for all...
View ArticleAmerican Woman: “What About Me?”
Quite a few women who consult me for Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) are already uncomfortably aware, or become aware, of just how oppressed and repressed they are and have been. It may not be...
View ArticleThe Marital Disaffection Iceberg: What’s Under The Surface?
Rescue Love Couple Therapy When I work with couples who are at the end of their relationship rope, which I describe as 11th-hour-and-59th-minute marital intervention, there usually has been a recent...
View ArticleChildhood Sexual Abuse: A Client’s Own Story of Courage, Empowerment & Peace
Dr. Madden, I thought I’d write you a letter since maybe you were wondering how I turned out! Well, a lot has happened over the last few years. First of all, you know that my Dad killed himself because...
View ArticleThe Soul Mate Syndrome
Reflections When I ponder my nearly half century of clinical behavioral health practice and observation of the human condition, I am especially amused by occurrences of the absurd, the ironic, and the...
View ArticleYou Always Hurt the One You Love
“You always hurt the one you love, the one you should not hurt at all; You always take the sweetest rose, and crush it till the petals fall; You always break the kindest heart, with a hasty word you...
View ArticleOf Course: Choosing Indifference Over Disappointment
This post is a work in progress like many topics and themes I tackle using my evolving application of REBT and Stoic thought to life questions and quandaries. Where our heart is set Disappointment...
View ArticlePerfectionism & Procrastination: Tag Team Trouble
Perfectionism and Procrastination are each formidable foes by themselves. But when teamed-up, together they can inflict even greater damage to our performance and emotions. This post will identify...
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